What is Emotional intelligence? 5 Qualities Which Makes Them Different.

Did you come across the Term ” Emotional intelligence” and wondered what it means?

Emotional intelligence is a quality that helps you to understand your emotions. It helps people make better decisions in life and be efficient communicators. Through emotional intelligence, Your emotions become your strength and a tool to succeed in Life.

We all have a way to deal with our emotions. Some ignore or suppress them, but how often do we acknowledge our feelings and do what needs to be done?

Emotional Intelligence is the quality of responding to situations with sensitivity and consciousness. It helps to cultivate Authentic relationships with oneself and others.

It’s not as complicated as it sounds so let’s break it down for Better understanding. What qualities are required to have a High EQ?

Awareness

Our emotions can easily become our weakness if we express too much or keep it to ourselves. Balance is the key in communication however to do that, One needs to understand their uprising feelings or moods from time to time. It’s absolutely okay to feel upset but to inquire about it is also important. Questions like ‘why are you feeling this way?’ or ‘What triggered it?’ can help you to understand deeper emotions.

It’s a practice of listening and understanding yourself without judgment. Try to observe your feelings and self-reflect. If you know what’s affecting you then others can’t trigger you. Naming your emotions can also help you to find the root cause of the conflict and help in clearing your mind.

Composure

Sometimes our weakness is to lose control when emotions are overwhelming. It could happen when we are angry, extremely upset or feeling vulnerable. At such times, Our emotions can overtake the mind and end up saying things or doing things that hurt other people.

A rule of thumb, It’s never okay to hurt someone just because you are hurting; especially if you care about them. Its important to be mindful of your words when you are overwhelmed with emotions. If you hold yourself together and not react in the moment, the situation will turn out far better than otherwise.

Recognize these decision “knee-jerk reaction” and be mindful. Keep yourself calm and handle the situation with dignity. Don’t let external affairs to be heavy on your emotions. Not only you’ll save the relationship but won’t hurt others.

Sensitive

To deal with emotions, one needs to be sensitive and open. To accept emotions without resistance and to listen to what they are conveying to you. Emotions are a great guide of directions. They knows the way to your heart and purpose. A closed heart which is guarded by insensitive walls cannot know sensitivity.

Our emotions are like boat sailing in the sea. one day its stable and the other, it’s uncomfortable to go through it. You must be open to all and not become defensive. Don’t try to change anything, simply watch their rise and fall. It will show the truth and brush away your confusion.

Watching your emotions may provoke you to speak your truth or have uncomfortable conversation with people which is long due. Do what feels right and follow your heart.

Courageous

Someone who is not intimidated from their emotions is capable enough to push boundaries and move in the unknown. A place where high Emotional intelligence lies. With courage, you will be able to follow your vision without letting anything hold you back. You will notice the obstacles but without attaching yourself to them and overcome it.

The truth is, It’s not you who is not enough but the obstacles that stand in your way. To realize and detach yourself from the obstacle, instead let it define your self-worth, It becomes easy to overcome challenges in your path and pursue it. With clarity comes the courage to follow your dreams and grow.

Boundaries

Boundaries plays very important role to protect whatever you are cultivating such as emotional intelligence. Boundaries are needed with people, habits and past conditioning.

If you are aware of things that affect you negatively, it becomes necessary to lay down boundaries that will help you to stay aligned with your purpose. Also, Boundaries in daily life, and in relationships are equally important to protect yours and other’s peace.

These healthy boundaries will help you to protect the progress you made in your journey.

Try Writing down your priorities that you wish to manifest – The obstacles that would come in your way can be taken care by setting right boundaries. Your priorities can’t be compromised even if it means changing your Lifestyle.

I hope this helps to understand the qualities an emotional intelligent person carries and will help you to become one as well.