We grew up believing that it’s Important to get married because it’s the ultimate goal. Raising kids and growing old alongside your partner is what every human should do. However, as we grew up and learned about ourselves, we began to question what is actually important, because the same thing can’t make everyone happy.
Despite living in a modern era where social norms have changed rapidly but the foundation of marriage stands very strong to this day. It’s such an influential part of society that you are the odd one if you don’t get married. Peer pressure from family and society can break even the strongest man.
If you see most of your friends and acquaintances getting married or about to get married, you must be feeling under pressure, and yet may not be ready for Marriage, especially if you are single and career-oriented. Well, let’s work out this confusion.
Is It Important To Get Married?
Choosing your lifelong partner does not have an expiration date. You have the total leverage to decide if you are ready for a lifelong commitment and with whom. If it serves your purpose, you can choose to commit to yourself instead of a partner. Don’t let the world decide for you.
There is no right or wrong in choosing either of the paths. What’s important is to do what feels right for you. At any time, You have the full liberty to make or change your decision. The decision that brings you closer to happiness and contentment in your life. Your vision and aspiration for the future could help to make that choice.
If to say that Marriage provides, endless enjoyment, stability and peace, it would not be the complete truth. Marriage comes with a lot of selfless work and responsibilities. If you aren’t willing to do it for your partner, It will get difficult. Marriage requires two people’s mutual efforts to run it.
On the other hand, Choosing to stay single is complex on its own. It requires strong willpower, purpose and a passion for self growth. There is no limit in what all you can achieve with dedicated time and effort. If personal growth is something that fuels your soul, don’t get married at all.
When Is The Right Time To Get Married?
The Right time to get married isn’t about age. It’s about whether you have found the right person. A life partner is an important decision that changes your life, so it’s more important to be sure of your person before you dream about marriage.
Marriage needs dedicated commitment, to put the other person’s happiness above yours. Sometimes, it requires compromising your future goals to benefit your partner or both of you. Why would you do that for somebody? if not because of love. The key ingredient to Marriage is love and consistent effort.
That’s why arranged marriage in today’s time, could be a recipe for disaster. Binding two people who barely know each other in a long-term legal contract might turn into a chaos which is happening pretty often. Two individuals who have not seen each other’s worst side or their pace of growth in challenging times, can struggle to work out their Marriage.
However, after knowing the other person, their nature, limitation and strength, if you strongly desire to get married out of love and willingness to commit to the other person’s happiness and sustain a lifelong bond, then getting Married is the right decision.
When Is Not The Right Time?
When you are simply not ready for it. Whether the reason is commitment, non-belief in the marriage institution or maybe you haven’t found the one. As we know, It’s a big responsibility to choose your partner for the rest of your life. You need to be wise and certain while making that decision. Rushing to get married can make you choose the wrong partner.
As Budha said “It’s Better To walk alone than with a Fool”
Now, when most people are educated, independent and carry a strong vision for themselves. Marriage is(now more than ever) not the end goal. You are free to choose your own goals.
Our goal should be to live a fulfilling life, grow into our best version and give back to the world and society. If you meet the right person in this journey and marriage feels natural, then all the more power to you. The point is not to let society pressure you or let your friends and family influence you in getting married. It should be solely your conscious decision.
A piece of advice, If you feel content and self-sufficient then you shouldn’t worry about getting married. However, if you feel your physical, emotional and psychological needs require human companionship, then by all means marry and live a married life intelligently.